Time, energy, and care are a finite resource. There is a set amount, and it’s up to us to figure out how to divvy it up. Therefore it’s really important to understand how we are naturally divvying up our time, energy, and care throughout a typical day, a year, a decade or lifetime. The best way to take charge is to really assess what it is that we truly care about because more often than not, our actions do not coincide with what we believe we care about.
Here are some things we would normally consider as the most important things in our lives:
- Ideological Causes
- The Arts
- Seeking pleasurable experiences
As we can see, this is a long list and it’s safe to assume that we cannot spend equally significant time, energy, and care for each area of our lives.
A healthy exercise is to write out a personalized list which is ranked by importance. A simple list like this can be the backbone of every decision we make in life. It will help us prioritize our time for the future, and it will help us recognize situations where are doing things that contradict the order of importance.
The beautiful thing here is that there are no right lists. People are free to put importance on any facet of their lives. The importance lies in aligning our list with our actions. This next part is even more beautiful. If there are any inconsistencies, then all we have to do is either rearrange our list or change our actions.
The key in all this is to avoid contradictions. We have heard many people say how they may sabotage their own happiness. It happens when our lists are not aligned with our actions.
Making decisions with certainty allows for us to live without regrets, and the easiest way to reach this is to assess the things that are truly important to us. So when we hear things like, “Be true to yourself” or “Walk the talk”, both these phrases are talking about the same thing: living life without hypocrisy. And both these things